Sex and Trees

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Sex and Trees

In light of recent events, I’ve had a lot of people ask me if I am going to write something that specifically addresses the SCOTUS decision on same-sex marriage. I think anything I write would just be “white noise” at this point, but I wanted to repost something from a few years ago that might give you a different perspective on Christian sexual ethics in general.

(However, if you would like a pretty good *quick reference with responses to a lot of the common arguments for SSM, this link is pretty good: http://www.compassdistributors.ca/topics/homoargs.htm)

Below is the original article:

Sexuality is one of the most difficult topics for Christians to dialogue with the rest of the world about.  In fact, it might be one of the most difficult subjects to discuss within the Church.

Usually, the conversation is geared toward what is permissible.  Generally, homosexuality, adultery and pornography are right out and on the obvious “bad list” for most of the evangelical world.   Sadly, I am afraid I must use the word “most” in this case as there is certainly a movement of gay-marriage acceptance as a totally Biblical concept within Christianity.

But I’m not here to talk about that.  I think that the Bible is pretty clear on what God has intended marriage to be, and if a person has come to a conclusion that there is no Biblical issue with homosexual activity, then I really don’t think I could reason them out of it.

What I want to talk about is the root of our sin, especially in the sexual world.  This might be a perspective you’ve never thought of before, but hang with me.

Open your Bible to Genesis 2, and you’ll find paradise.  God has placed man and woman in a perfect, lush, wonderful garden.  They are free to roam around in the buff, in perfect relationship with each other and nature and God.  But in Genesis 3, it all falls apart.  Why?

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The serpent convinces Eve that God is holding out on her.  I’ll bet in some way you are tempted to sympathize with her a little bit.  But just think of this for a moment.  God has given Adam and Eve free reign over PARADISE.  There are literally thousands, if not millions of wonderful non-thorny trees and bushes with all kinds of perfect fruits and berries to have their fill of.  But Eve is tricked into focusing on the one tree that she is restricted from.

If you are a parent, have you ever heard your child say something to the effect of, “You never let me do/have/get anything I want!” all while they have a room and back yard full of toys?

I bet you see where I’m going with this.  But have you ever considered that God didn’t have to make existence enjoyable in the first place at all?

As a man, I think women are just great.  They are beautiful, sweet, graceful creatures.  Never mind sexual attraction, they are great friends.  Long before I was married, I had girl friends and girlfriends whom I still think very highly of to this day.  I had the pleasure of knowing them as people.  It is a part of human experience to have meaningful relationships with other people and when those relationships are healthy, they are enjoyable.

God didn’t have to make it like that.  Look at the animal kingdom.  Many animals live solitary lives, only coming together to mate.

And speaking of mating, God didn’t have to make that enjoyable, either.  He could have made it purely instinctual.  He could have made that process completely devoid of meaning, pleasure, intimacy etc.  (I don’t want to write the details here, but Octopi are a prime example.)

So here we are, living on a planet where we can have many different kinds of meaningful relationships we enjoy, but only because God is good and made it that way.  We can have intimate physical and emotional relationships we enjoy, but only because God is good and made it that way.  And yet, when it comes to sex, and most all other sins for that matter, we look at God and say, “You tyrant! You won’t let me have any fun!”

From my perspective as a man (ladies, I understand what you get in a man isn’t all that great compared to what we men get in a woman), I must realize that God didn’t have to give me the opportunity or pleasure of knowing, loving or caring for anyone.  Let alone anything so great as a woman.  Let alone allow me to marry and be intimate with one!

Do I dare shake my fist at God and be angry that he says I should be faithful to the one?

Perhaps we need to remember God’s goodness.   Perhaps we need to remember that God made us for a purpose.  Perhaps we need to remember, “the body is not for immorality, but for the Lord.”  Perhaps we need to remember that it is God’s business what we do with our time, talents, money, mind and, yes, our genitals too.

If you don’t believe me, please read 1 Corinthians chapters 5 and 6 and see if what I am saying is true.   (It won’t take long)

We are not merely animals, PRAISE GOD.

By Klinton Silvey


The Reality of Grammy Idols

I was so utterly discouraged Wednesday after my talk to nearly 150 teen girls, I couldn’t even write this article.  I couldn’t look at their evaluations of my program and I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t overcome my despair.  I was spent.

See, mid-day on Monday I began preparing for my speech to this group.   Since I am now in my thirties — can’t believe I’m saying that —I thought it might be a good idea to do a little research and figure out what’s hot and trending in pop culture to get a better grip on where most teenage minds reside.  So, I checked my DVR for the Grammy’s.  Now before you stop reading because you are thinking, “here we go, again” I hope you’ll hear me out.

I’ll admit, I primarily began watching because I really do need to understand teen culture and music is a good indicator, but if I’m honest, I also wanted to see Taylor Swift perform.  I don’t know why.  So, after a quick view of what I’m guessing was one-third of Beyonce’ and JayZ’s earth-shattering performance, I skimmed through in search of Taylor.  On my fast-forward journey I grew more and more irritated with the outfits, or lack-there-of, the extremely sexual choreography and the very dark and down right weird stuff.  I watched all of Taylor.  Her dress was gorgeous.  Her performance was what I expected and I truly wanted to jump through the TV and give her a hug when she was done.  She looked so hurt by that guy.  Seriously.  After that, I skimmed through a couple more morally disgusting jokes and performances and called it a day.  I didn’t watch most of it.

I had seen enough.

As I thought about the “show” I started to feel my reaction coming on strong.  This is MESSED UP.  I was mad.  Why are we so eager to support, applaud and give credit to these people?  Because they are famous, talented, beautiful and rich?  I guess so.  Are people really this enthralled by raunchy sex appeal?  Do we not see vulgarity as wrong anymore?  As quickly as I’m asking the questions, the answer came — yes.  Morality has no place in our culture.  Right is relative.  Tolerance and acceptance are our only beliefs and Yonce’ (as the girls I spoke to lovingly call her), JayZ, Katy Perry and the like are our nation’s most popular preachers.  Hollywood elite craft and deliver the message.  We accept. They set the standard.  We give them a golden statue and keep the cash flow goin’ so they can build their empires.  It’s crazy.  Ironically, many of their own children probably aren’t allowed to watch!

I thought about it all day Monday and Tuesday and Wednesday as I was driving to St. Louis.  I prayed and prayed, “Lord, what would you have me do?”  As I arrived at the school, I felt compelled to share with the girls how Christian Grammy nominee, Natalie Grant, left the Grammys early because it was so ridiculous.  After all, my presentation was on personal branding, image and character.  I thought the story would be a great way to conclude.

Here’s the thing; the girls totally did not get it.  It may because I didn’t communicate it well.  But, I have nine years of experience speaking to crowds just like this one.  I don’t think, in this case, I was the issue.  They cheered at my first mention of the Grammys.  Clearly, they LOVE Beyoncé.  They’ve never heard of Natalie Grant, not surprising, but you should know this was a private, Christian school.  I have spoken to over 80,000 teenagers and I’m telling you, these girls turned on me when I merely alluded to the idea that Yonce’ had been inappropriate.  They were absolutely dumbfounded at the thought of a Grammy nominee walking out.  Why?  They could not, in any way, wrap their minds around the notion that ANYTHING had been wrong at, with, or surrounding the Grammys.  They thought it was awesome.  I kept looking for faces that might show a glimpse of agreement with me.  None.

The bell rang, they handed in their evaluations and they were gone.  I was devastated.

Listen Christians; we have got to stop being gray.  We have got to stop being lukewarm.  We have got to stop allowing our children and the teens in our lives to go day-to-day thinking it is perfectly acceptable to act like a sex object, witch or whatever.  It is NOT okay.  You can call it art, you can call it performance, you can call it creativity, you can call it entertainment, you can even call it freedom of expression.  But, you, Christian, cannot call it right and you cannot act like it is no big deal.  It is profane.  It is a slap in the face of your creator.  It is WRONG.  WRONG.  Say the word.  Things that are profane are not beautiful.  Profanity is not to be celebrated, but exposed.  The church has been quiet or found ignorant while our culture has adopted, promoted and established profane idols of worship.  We’ve allowed our enemy to silence us and now I feel like an ancient prophet screaming,  “Stop the madness!  Turn back.  Destroy these idols or they will destroy us.”

This is nothing new.  This is what the enemy does.  He takes things, people, that were designed to be beautiful, created for eternal purpose and he destroys them.  The enemy perverts them.  What you saw — or hopefully didn’t see — was perversion.  Is Beyoncé talented and beautiful?  Of course!  But what God designed for His glory has been debauched.  The same formula could be said for nearly every artist that took the stage.  How does it happen?  Simple.  They — we — are born absolutely depraved.

The same formula would be said of me if Satan had his way.

God is love AND God is holy.  Everyone wants to talk about His love, but scarcely — especially in our pop culture and mainstream media — can you find anyone who wants to discuss His holiness.  The media push young people to believe that God loves everyone and therefore accepts everyone no matter what they do.  They push that since God made our emotions; whatever we feel must be okay.  OR, since there is no God, we can decide what’s good, bad, right and wrong.  Either way, we are in control.  They insist when you try to debate, discuss, reason or disagree with them, you’re an idiotic fool.  Get this: their god is not the God of the Bible.  Their god is one they have fabricated for their own comfort, ultimately resulting in the god of self.  They live to build their own kingdoms and to glorify themselves.  They DO NOT care about, nor do they know the God Christianity proclaims.

The God of the Bible, the only One who has revealed and proven Himself for thousands of years has not and will not tolerate sin. Nor does He casually overlook sin.  He never will.  God does not accept people the way they are!  Hello!?  There would have been NO REASON for Christ and the cross if that statement were true.  All people are not acceptable in the eyes of God.  Think about it.  We are only acceptable in the eyes of God through faith in Jesus Christ.  That’s it.  Unless we have been “born again” by faith in the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, God in the flesh, we are not acceptable.  He takes what is corrupt, does away with it and replaces it with something better, His righteousness.  He redeems.  We praise Him for His grace because we have done NOTHING to deserve that chance.  That was ALL Him.  He chose us.  While we were still sinners, messed up, Christ died for us — all of us.

Jesus came to free us from sin and the death trap that it is.  He came to give us life.  He did that.  We did nothing.  Some choose to reject Him.  They don’t want what He offers.  They prefer their sin to His righteousness.  They don’t want to surrender their life to a God they can’t see.  They don’t want to be told what is right and what is wrong by a divine creator.  It is their right to make that choice (only because God created us with a free will to do so, ironically) but the REALITY is every knee is going to bow.  Every tongue that is making money mocking the holy God of the Bible now will someday confess that Jesus Christ is Lord.  Mark His words, it will happen.

But in the meantime, I don’t want a whole generation of people to be deceived by the enemy because I’m too afraid to speak out and proclaim the truth.

It is time we stand together and stand up for truth.  The human body is not a sex object and sexuality is sacred.  There is right and wrong.  Our Creator defines it.  We can prove morality.  If you claim Christianity, you must stop supporting and watching things that are profane in the eyes of your maker.  STOP.  Christ lives in you and is with you.  You must grasp what it means that your body is a temple of the living God.  You must stop putting trash in your mind.  You must believe God when he says those who sow to the flesh will reap corruption.  And stop justifying it.  Stop allowing your kids to bathe in this trash.  If you think your daughter is fine, I dare you to look at her iTunes account.  Check her list of artists and songs.  Google some lyrics.   This is what she’s listening to when you’re trying to get her attention. Parents, stand in the gap for your kids!  Get your own mind right.  Teach that there is in fact a line.  It is well past crossed and we cannot sit back and act like all is well.  All is not well.  I know because I saw it on the faces of 150 girls who have no idea why they matter or if their life has value.  They have no idea who they are or who they are supposed to be.  They have no idea that their body is a precious gift.  They have no clue despair and destruction wait for them at the hand of their enemy.  He is deceiving a generation and we are letting him.

There’s hope.  Christ asks us to be that hope.  He asks us to be salt and to be light, to push back the darkness and to share the TRUTH.   Smash the idols.  I believe if we are faithful to do our part, to be obedient to His commands, He will be faithful to do His.

I’m in.  Are you?


The Best sermon on sexuality we’ve heard

David Platt, author of Radical and Follow Me delivers one of the best sermons on sexuality I’ve ever heard. I wish I had heard this sermon a decade ago.  If the player below won’t work, you can find it labeled “The Cross and Christian Sexuality Part 2” on this page: http://www.brookhills.org/media/series/the-cross-and-christian-community/v921